psychology books, even common knowledge, will tell us that the female and male minds are inherently different. they absorb and process information in very different ways. and thus, this affects the manner in which they relate to one another. for example, playing mind games. i'm not saying that i'm not guilty of "being a girl" and having had my share in the kind of silliness that i'm harping about. i'm just saying that it's frustrating to me. i understand that it's a defense mechanism; a means to protect ourselves from exposure, embarrassment, or even pain.
i find myself torn between self-preservation and honesty (or directness). i find myself asking, "why not choose honesty?" "why not choose directness?" why not just say what we mean to say? we'd all be better off if we stopped being afraid. we'd all be better off if we say what we mean to say; there would be far less misunderstandings, far less confusion, and we'd all probably end up getting more satisfaction because people would know exactly what we want from them and life in general.
so anyway, here's a recent conversation i had about all this:
T: hey settle an argument for me, will ya? C: yes T: do guys play mind games? i would say no. i think it takes too much time and energy. C: what do you mean? T: for guys, whatever gets said is what's meant T: no underlying meanings, no ulterior motives C: for the most part i would say that what is said is what is meant C: why do you ask? T: oh heather and i were just talkin' C: see i need senarios T: in relation to how guys and girls relate to each other C: alrighty T: i tend to think that guys are more prone to directness than girls are C: i would agree C: but there are always exceptions to that C: for instance... Robyn... she is pretty direct T: when a guy says something, a girl would usually assume that he's up to something, and she reads into what he said and comes up with all these scenarios. i think that's crap. i would just take what he said as what he meant...mostly because i think i know how the male brain works. C: yeah T: well, anyway. i win C: haha C: well put C: i'm glad you got some satisfaction out of that T: oh i did C: damn glad to hear T: wait, exceptions? T: oh like complicated boys who play games C: yes. or very strong-headed girls who are direct T: yeah C: but there aren't very many exceptions T: i know
but then again, who am i to judge? i'm a hypocrite.
